Corrected to be a better Mom by my Daughter!!

                                                

Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him. Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warrior's hands. How happy is the man whose quiver is full of them! He will not be put to shame when he confronts his accusers at the city gates. Psalm 127:3-5

Yes, you will not be put to shame when you are confronted by your accusers who will want to mock you because of the negative behaviour of your children.

When I was a child I didn’t enjoy good parenting because my father was never there when we needed him while my mother was busy doing her business to ensure that we have all our basic needs met but we wanted more than that! Our Emotional and Spiritual needs were not visible or important to them; they cared less about those aspects.

Casting my mind back, my father travels a lot because of the nature of his job and anytime he comes back he hardly even stays at home to find out what his children’s needs are! You can imagine where I was coming from!  Correcting us was done by our mother, I will always be grateful for her determination and courage without a supportive husband. She did her best but it would have been easier for her if she fully had the support of my father (sorry to say this but I never like remembering my childhood days at all in regard to my upbringing because it makes me feel emotional and angry with my father but I have forgiven him a long time ago and we are good friends today. He cherishes is grandchildren a lot and gives them the attention he never gave to us!) No regrets at all because those experiences helped me to be a better parent and not wanting to follow the path of my parents!

Some days ago after work I came back home and my house was in a big mess! Gush I was very angry with my children because my house was upside down (ladies you know how it is when you come back from work tired abi?).

Can I Trust You Again??

                                   

Trust in any relationship is hard. When I was young it was a word said with the same tone as respect. People earned your trust, and they earned your respect. I have heard people say, “she has to trust me and respect me”. Yet they are playing games, and sometimes even cheating. That is a contradiction in terms.

What is trust? It is literally defined as having faith in someone, or relying on someone.

Wikipedia says it is:

The degree to which one party trusts another is a measure of belief in the honesty, fairness, or benevolence of another party.

If you don't trust someone, they won't be able to hurt you. Think of putting your trust in someone like giving someone some delicate possession of yours to hold. They now have the ability to drop it and hurt "you". If you never give it to them, they can't hurt you. This is no way to live though. Having relationship with people just means you have to risk getting hurt.

How can I trust a man or woman who keeps hurting me at every opportunity? Because the more I trust the person the more power I give them to hurt me. By trusting someone you make yourself vulnerable.

Too Desperate to make Money.

More Nigerians than ever are desperate for money and many of them will do just about anything to get it. The crumbling economy has pushed millions of ordinary Nigerians to the brink of utter desperation.

These days it seems like people will do just about anything for money. All over the country, there are areas where just about anything that is not secured down is being stolen. A lot of people have resorted to making money however they can - selling drugs, selling their bodies, invading homes, taking bribes and even stealing from their own family members. You will have a hard time believing some of the experiences of the people who are very close to me shared and I thought it wise to let people know and take extra actions about their safety.

Just recently, a colleague of mine after the day’s work boarded a taxi home. She said before entering the taxi, she noticed that the taxi man was quite young and wearing sun glasses in the evening and he was blasting his music radio very high but because she was late she quickly entered! On their way, she saw a folded Ghana Must Go bag in front of the car meanwhile she was sitting at the passenger’s sit of the car. When she noticed that the man was on high speed, she told him to slow down and he complied. Suddenly the taxi man told her to give him the diary he kept at the back of the car because he wants to bring out money from the diary to buy something along the way. At first she pretended as if she didn’t hear what he was saying and the man repeated himself again but this time was pleading with her to help him pick the diary!!

I Cherish My Woman Power!!

                                                     

Women do have power, lots of it. But I’m not just talking about power within the family, or power in the workplace, or even power in high political office. I’m talking about a more basic kind of power: power over men.

If a woman recognizes her power over men, and chooses to exercise it, she can own a man. I don’t care who the man is or what he’s accomplished; if she wants him and he’s at all attracted to her, she can own him. It’s often said that sex---or, more precisely, a woman’s ability to grant it or withhold it---is the source of a woman’s power over men. Whatever the source of a woman’s power may be, she needs to use it wisely.

Just because a woman can own a man doesn’t mean she has to. They may both be happier if her power is exercised so effortlessly that he can maintain the illusion that maybe it’s his power that she’s attracted to. Is that itself a kind of manipulation? Maybe, but I don’t think many men would complain, even if they could recognize it. If his illusions are left intact, a man is always happy.

Most men will agree with me that their pursuit of work is directly related to their pursuit of women or providing for “The Woman” in their life. It is said that men are turned on through their eyes while women are turned on through their ears.

Consider three examples from the Scripture. Take the power of Delilah with Samson. Samson could take on an army of warriors, but he surrendered to the charms of one woman. A writer describes Samson as a "He-man, with a she-weakness."

Take King David, who faced and felled a nine-foot Goliath, yet fell under the spell of Bathsheba. David was so obsessed; he was drawn away from his God into immorality, lies, and ultimately murder. And consider Solomon, who ruled over the golden years of Israel, but was captivated by the power of women.

 

Something About My NAME.

                                                   
                                           

Just think for a few minutes now, I would like you to think about your name. Is it a good name? If you could have named yourself, would you have chosen the same name? There is a meaning behind every name, what is the meaning behind yours? My English name is Justina which means “Justice” while my native name is Nwakaego which means “A child is greater than money”. No wonder I display some traits of always wanting justice to prevail in every issue that I face. I can’t stand it when someone wants to simply take advantage of the other!! If you want to be my friend then don’t maltreat a child or a woman! These two categories of people are my heart beat. Sorry guys hope you are not calling me a feminist!! Whatever, no apologies! I’m always proud to stand for Justice and Fairness.

Some years ago, I travelled to my village for a traditional marriage and one day while we were chatting and relaxing a woman cried out of her compound and her husband chased her out and pushed her down and was beating her mercilessly. People immediately came to the rescue of the woman and I told the man if he beat her again I was going to call the police for him and he rained insults on me! From the information I gathered, the man was a drunk and keeps late night. I told myself I was going to teach him one or two lessons! I called my friends who were in the army and they took him to their barrack for two days. Ha…..ha (forget me when I’m mischievous) when he came back, he was a different man! He was made to sign an undertaking that he will never beat his wife again and that he was going to be responsible!

Today we are family friends and his wife told me that if she was to make a choice again in respect to marriage, she will choose her husband and I was touched by that statement. I love my name, it’s working for me!

Do not forget that whatever you name your infant boy or girl will have a profound effect on the development of their mind, personality, career path, self-confidence, and much more. My first daughter’s name is “Favour” and I noticed that anywhere she goes, people notice her and she comes home with gifts!