Bishop T.D. Jakes, 55, has been married to his wife Serita for over 30 years and shares five children with her. He said the biggest mistake that young couples make, is that couples do not take the time to really get to know one another.
"Young couples can get swept up in the euphoria of romantic love without ever realizing that love ebbs and flows through the seasons and stages of life,". He also said, "Sometimes individuals place unreasonably high expectations on their partners. They want their mate to 'complete them,' to be their 'best friend,' 'their everything'- which is a heavy burden to place on a partnership," . "The only place where two halves make a whole is in geometry. Marriage requires two whole individuals to become one."
The pastor spoke about marriage requiring constant work, and used gardening as a metaphor to describe the process.
"Like a garden, marriage requires constant upkeep and maintenance, Tilling the ground may be hard work in the spring, but breaking up the fallow ground allows you to get rid of the accumulating weeds and turn over old soil six to eight inches beneath the surface, so that fresh earth is allowed to come to the top to breathe which enables you to replenish the nutrients depleted in winter so that new vegetables and flowers can flourish. In the summer, only watering is required and fall is harvest time."
Jakes said, Marriage requires work and expecting the unexpected. Don't let other people design a marriage you can't live with. Keep other people out of your business. Every marriage is different.
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